Have you ever had a breakup where it was difficult for you to recover and confusing; to say the least? Chances are that you are not alone. There are so many other people that have had a similar experience. After a break up, it is not as easy as you think to move on and start a new life.

Dating is not going to be a breeze. It might feel as if someone has died and you are grieving the loss. If you continue to dwell on the breakup, then it will be harder to recover and move forward with your life. There are some people that find it harder to handle than others. Females especially will do a lot of crying, over eating for comfort and staying in bed for long periods of times. Men might handle it differently, if they are the ones that did the breakup. Some men will have no remorse while others could be devastated as well, but are quicker to move on. It is best to allow yourself to go through the grieving or mourning process. Give yourself time and try not to go into another relationship right away. Learn more about why the breakup occurred and whether you played a role in it or not so that when you do go into the next relationship, you would have changed or know how to handle things in a different manner. It is best to experience the pain, face the reality of the new developments and find things to do to keep busy. Don't try to contact your ex unless you want to find closure or if the person wants to try again to make it work. If you are the one who has ended the relationship, trust your judgment and finds ways that you can move on.

After you break up with someone, the first things that you should do is to un-friend, mute, un-follow, or block the person from your social media page. It is advised too that you don't see the person, talk to them or have any form of communication at all. That includes not communicating through social media for at least three months.

Once you take a digital relationship break, it will become easier to move on. You won't have to see what the person is doing. It will out of sight, out of mind. You will have enough time to deal with the loss without having to deal with any complications or clinginess. You will not have to deal with any false hope that the relationship is going to work when it is not. Of course, you will need a considerable amount of time to get over the initial shock of being alone. You also have to get over the emotional hurdle of having to handle the loss.

One of the most essential things that you should bear in mind is that during a relationship breakup, it will affect you emotionally, especially if you are a woman. It affects you psychologically and sometimes physically too. Therefore, this is the time when you want to take care of yourself. It even feels like someone who is experiencing a withdrawal process. For that reason, you should do what is necessary to care for yourself; making sure that you are mentally and physically prepared for future relationships.

For now, you should think only about yourself though and not about another relationship or past relationship. You should try to stay active by exercising, getting some daily sunshine and letting your hormones flow so that you can get back your mojo and feel better about yourself. You should spend time with people that love and care about you.

When you break up with someone or someone breaks up with you, there is a time when you have to face the new reality of being without each other. Of course, in the beginning, you might feel panicked about the relationship ending. You may want to put all your focus on getting back together again, even if you were always unhappy in the relationship. You must accept the reality that this is a legitimate breakup and it is OK to close this chapter of your life and move on. Facing the reality means that you will embrace the situation and not stay in a state of denial. This will give you time to heal and take your first steps to moving forward.

It can be quite heart wrenching to go through a relationship break up. It cuts to the core and you will feel like you have a deep wound that is hard to heal. You will feel the pain of going through it, especially if you have to do this alone. But, it is best to feel the pain. Yes, allow yourself to go through the heartache so that you can eventually heal yourself. You would be surprised at how smoother the healing process could be. While you go through the pain, you will begin to learn more about yourself. You will also learn who your friends are and which of your friends are there to support you when you need it the most. This is the perfect opportunity for you to grow as a person. So, sometimes everything happens for a reason. Even pain is good for you sometimes.

Of course, when you experience a breakup with your partner, you will be hurting. That is only common. You will also be wondering if this is the appropriate choice you made. The same is true, if someone broke up with you. It will make you wonder, if they made the right choice too. You should definitely resist the urge to think like that. And you should never second guess yourself. If you decide to breakup or accept a breakup, you should already have known that this relationship was going nowhere. Don't let any of your friends or associates dictate how you handle this. You are the one that had to endure all kinds of things in the relationship. Your friends did not have to deal with it. And so, this is going to be your ultimate choice that you have to live with. To get you to the point where you will accept your choice, sit down and make a list of all the reasons why you should break up with this person or a list of accepted fact as to why the person broke up with you. Your brain will start to accept the reality and you will be able to push through; working towards healing yourself and trusting your choice.

To lift your spirits, encourage yourself and stay motivated, go to the flower shop and buy yourself a big bunch of roses and have it delivered to your office or home. This is a real confidence booster. When it arrives at the office, everyone will be whispering about a secret admirer. Only you will know that this is a way to boost your spirits, but it is a good indicator that you are willing to try anything to feel better. Make sure you take steps to care for your roses. Fill a vase with water and put the flowers in them. Once they wilt, be sure to throw them in the trash. While you throw them away, think about your partner who broke up with you or who you broke up with. The fact that you just threw the wilted flower out will make you feel as if you were throwing out your bad breakup too. Continue to purchase roses until you get to the point where it is no longer an issue. This is a hack that many people have sworn by in order to lift their spirits after a relationship breakup.

Another thing you could do is to visit a boxing ring or gym where there is a punching bag and get your anger out in that manner. Yes, when you do go through a relationship breakup, you do have some amount of anger in you and this anger has to be channeled or you will find yourself living with it and allowing it to go to another relationship with you. And so, you have to get rid of it once and for all.

Another way to combat a relationship breakup is to take yourself on a short vacation. It is best to go by yourself or you can bring a friend along. Choose an exotic location for your vacation. It will bring you much more peace and fewer distractions. It is a good way to give you a sense of relief and continue taking care of yourself.

Keep yourself busy. If that means doing some spring cleaning around the house or painting the exterior of your home, then by all means do so. If you were living with the person who broke up with you, then spend this time rearranging the home from what it looked like when you both were living there. If this is not your home and you leased or rented it, then try to find a new place to live so that you don't have to deal with the bad memories. Giving your house a new appearance after a break up is like a catalyst to working towards the new you. It will help to erase the other person's presence. It is like getting rid of the old to invite the new into your home.

While you are cleaning your home or apartment it is time to get rid of that old concert ticket that you had on that first date or the special sheet set that you would put on the bed on certain occasions. By getting rid of certain items that are a constantly reminder, it will make it easier to get over your relationship breakup. Once you get rid of the reminders, it will be easier to recover.

Now, it is time to sit down and write to your ex or the person who broke up with you. In the letter, document all your feelings. If you have to say something hurtful, don't hold back. Write until you get the anger and other ill feelings out and then put the letter away in a drawer. It is not about mailing the letter to your ex, but more about having a breakup ceremony, burning all your feelings and the toxic energy that you once had together. It is a way to find closure.

There is going to come a time in the recovery process after a relationship breakup that you should try to get involved with a lot of activities so you can get your mind off of the experience. Go out with your friends when you are ready for this. In any event, you should begin to socialize more. If you have no one to socialize with, then go to dinner or movie by yourself. It is possible that a stranger might be watching you across the room and may come up to you to ask for your phone number. Taking yourself out to dinner alone means that you are healing and comfortable with your own company. That is a sign that you are recovering.

You should consider blocking your ex from your social media pages and you should also do the same. If you are still browsing through the posts and looking at pictures from your exe's social media page, it means you are still engaged mentally and that is not good for you, if you want to recover. If you don't cut off the social media connection, you would be stalking your ex and it will be so much more difficult to make the final and permanent break.