Social media has ended a lot of relationships and it also has been a conduit for those who still want to stalk their ex's or find out what they are doing. When you break up with someone, it is best to move on, but not everyone does this quite so easily. The issue will typically begin with looking or browsing through the profile or posts that the ex has published and before you know it, it spirals out of control and turns into a full blown pattern where you might find yourself going back again and again to look at new developments. And most times, the ex will post mostly positive developments and possibly pictures with a new partner. This can make anyone get jealous and then it is going to be harder to move past it.

Checking your ex's social media profile to see if they have moved on like you have is different from obsessing over who he or she is dating. Going through is page for other posts that you might have overlooked is the red flag that you are doing much more than just checking it out. You could become a serious stalker, if you are not careful. You might be so obsessed that you are inclined to go back through past pictures and photos of both of you to see where the problem started or why your ex might have been so distant. You may never find the answers there and so, it is your responsibility to find ways that you can move forward.

It is difficult enough to try and give your whole life the kind of facelift it needs after you have broken up with your partner. However, if you put social media into the mix and having to deal with that, it becomes even more difficult for you. You might not have enough willpower to tiptoe around your ex's social media page and so, you might end up following the newsfeed for the latest posts.

It is going to be an uphill battle, if you don't nip it in the bud right after the break up and cut off all social media ties. If you stay in that newsfeed, you are going to feel hurt, disappointed, angry and disillusioned. If you don't block, un-friend or un-follow your ex immediately after the breakup, you will be tempted to go on the social media page to find out where they might be, who with and their future love interests. It is not a good idea to do that. You have to have enough willpower to get over your ex, move forward and take care of yourself and focus on healing before getting into another relationship right away.

Stalking is tempting for anyone who has just gone through a relationship breakup. It i snot unusual, but it is still not healthy. If you are the kind of person who is constantly online and you cannot keep from going to your ex's social media page, you probably need to delete your own social media account and start a new one so that you can get rid of the urge once and for all. If not, you are going to be stalking your ex all the time; wondering whose tweets are getting his or her attention or whose picture is being posted on his or her page.

By stalking, it is showing that you are not over your ex and that you might not have a life of your own. If you are looking for answers to why your relationship did not work, you won't find it on the social media page. It is better that you call up your ex to find the answers that you want so you can get closure instead of stalking him or her on their social media page. If you ex has moved on, it is time for you to accept the decision and avoid the stalking because you are only hurting yourself.

What if you went on your ex's social media page and found that all the pictures you took together and were posted are not deleted? What would you do? So, it is wise not to check up on your ex through his or her social media page or you might find out things that will only make you feel worse. While it might feel normal to check up on what your ex is doing online, it might prove to be heart aching and not something that everyone can handle. This might be the right time to quit and concentrate on your own life instead of worrying or being concerned about what your ex is doing.

We have to face the fact that checking on your ex's social media page is human and appealing. If you are emotionally weak, then this could be quite disadvantageous and hurtful. In other words, it is not going to do you much good. It is easy for other people to say that you shouldn't do it, right? Try to sit down and do an evaluation of the situation to find out what is in it for you and what it might be doing to you? Check your feelings and the level of tolerance that you have for this. It is going to be an individual decision not to check on your ex's social media page. It will hurt more, if you are emotionally weak. Do you want to put yourself through more hurt than you experienced during the relationship and after the breakup? It is going to be a tough call, but it might be necessary to make a complete break to strengthen your resolve and to be more emotionally strong. If it is not benefiting you, then you should stop.

Not all relationships are the same and not all of them may have ended the same way. However, typically, if you try to be as honest to yourself as possible, you will realize early that you won't feel better after you have read your ex's posts on social media or looked at a photo of the pet dog that you had come to love. You are only being hard on yourself and making it more difficult to move on. It is important that you get these things out of your sight, even if you have them in your mind. This is especially true if you are constantly hurting already and having a hard time moving forward. When you and your ex decide to part ways, then you should do the same with the social media pages. You should divorce any access to each other's social media pages or account. In addition, social media will usually hype up the state of someone's life and it might appear better than it really is. That is where you will get disillusioned to think that one post with what might look like a new partner in your ex's life is not necessarily so. It could be a family or friend and it is distorted to look like something else; just to throw you off course. So, you are not doing yourself justice to be hooked up with your ex's social media page, even when you have both decided to end the relationship.

It is best to be honest with yourself on the amount of energy it is going to take for you to call it completely quits. You might be spending too much energy on the wrong thing. Negative energy is only going to make matters worse. It takes a lot of effort to check out your ex's social media page and the way it is going to make you feel will amount to 'negative energy,' which is not good for your well being. You have to separate yourself from that negative energy and direct your energy to starting new friendships and focusing on things that will prove to benefit you in the long run. Get involved in things that you are passionate about and that will inspire others. Instead of focusing on your ex, for example, place your attention on volunteering at a local hospital or choose a non-profit organization or charity that you have an interest in. When you change your focus, you will have less chance of checking out your ex's social media pages. This will help you to separate yourself from the whole drama of watching what your ex is doing socially.

One way that you can help yourself get over your ex is to remain friends. There are many people who find this to be empowering and healthy. However, it depends on the state that the relationship was in once you broke up. It also will depend on whether your ex wants to maintain a friendship or not. But, if you become true friends, it can help you to accept that your ex is moving on and help you to find closure in the relationship with your ex; so much so that you are willing to be accepting of anyone who comes into his life. This is an unusual scenario, but it has worked for many people. This solution is not for everyone, though.

Assess your personal needs and you will probably realize that it takes too much work to check out an ex's social media page. If you have kids to take care of and you are co-parenting with your ex, then you have to switch your focus to the kids and not your ex. Your kids need you more. If you have a busy career, it is also essential that you focus on that and not on your ex. In fact, your kids and your career should be able to keep you busy enough to stay away from social media. While you might not be able to sever the relationship completely, if you both co-parent your kids, you can still focus more on what is most important in your life. And, be sure that you are cordial to each other for the sake of the kids.

If you had someone close to you go through a break up like you have, how would you advise him or her? Would you tell the person to check out their ex's social media page or would you advice otherwise? The same advice that you would give to someone close to you should be similar to the advice that you need to heed for yourself. You have to be honest about your true feelings so as to make it easier to move on. You would be a big hypocrite, if you are willing to give your friend the advice that you should accept for yourself. It wouldn't be cool to do otherwise.

Depending on how your relationship came to an end, that could be a good reason not to stalk your ex's social media page. It should make you angry and disappointed enough not to want to see or be engaged in checking out your ex's social media page. You should relinquish any contact unless you are in a situation where kids are involved. If the relationship ended because of abuse, for example, this should be enough reason to stay far away as possible from this person. However, no matter if it is abuse or not, it is just not healthy to do check out your ex's social media page. You should use the reason why the relationship ended as your motivator to move forward on your own. You are worth much more than that and you should take advantage of the chance now to discover yourself and what you have to offer to a new partner.