Great news! Yes they are! Orgasms just might be one of the great things about being human (certainly up there with opposable thumbs), in part because it's something that everyone can do, either for themselves or for other people. The euphoric sensation of going into a trance-like state during intercourse is slightly different between men and women, as for men it is almost always tied to ejaculation. For women, in can be much more varied, with all sorts of different stimulations in the running for the thing that sends of them over the edge. Much has been made that strictly vaginal stimulation usually isn't enough, and that the clit needs to be given plenty of attention in order for a women to reach those heights of pleasure.

Orgasms typically last around fifteen seconds, and being able to line many of them up in a row and make it an actual 'multiple orgasm' is not just about being in good physical health, but being in a very aroused state in the first place. And while this can mean in one way that avoiding sex for a few days will make you cum quicker when you finally get back to having sex, it can also be a good starting point for maybe cumming several times in a row. At the same time, just being in a particularly sexy situation - maybe your partner has tried a new position, maybe you've been sexting all day, maybe it's a fling and you realized as soon as you met your hookup that you couldn't wait to rip their clothes off - can also be the trigger that launches wave after wave of amazing feelings flowing through your body.

While men reaching orgasm is comparatively easier, women definitely have the advantage in the sense that it is much easier for them to experience several orgasms successively. If men are typically a 'quick one and done', the woman are the slow-boilers that eventually explode in a chain of unrestrained lust (and for how much sexuality in modern culture still revolves around men, it's certainly fitting that the real truth is that women can experience much more sexual pleasure than men). This does not happen simply because of more physical prowess, but several different factors, and different quirks and kinks can turn on people in different ways, so by far the best way to reach the multiple orgasm world is too keep exploring and trying new things. Even adding something roleplaying, which is much more of a mental turn on than physical one, can make a huge difference into how you and your partner are thinking about sex.

While a man's orgasm typically last around fifteen seconds, a woman's individual one can be longer by another five or ten seconds (and while that might not seem like much, during orgasms every second definitely counts), and it is much easier for them to get lost in that moment and then have another, and another. A good way to look at it is that more time you spend slowly building up to the big moment, the longer the big moment itself will last.

For both men and women, the sheer physicality of sex is deceptive. It's too easy to think that sex is a bit of kissing, some back and forth oral sex, and then one or two positions for intercourse which involves plenty of thrusting and maybe the woman reaching down between her legs to stimulate her clit in order to hopefully cum at the exact same time as the man. And for too long - and certainly still today - that's what sex is for a lot of people around the world.

But like so many other things, the more effort you put into to having a really wild and original time in bed with your partner, the more rewards you are going to get out of it. And that means stimulating the most important erogenous zone of all: the brain. Just getting your partner thinking about sex throughout the day is a great start. And whether that means making some slightly dirty comments at breakfast or lunch, or giving a surprise shoulder massage when you both get back home from work, trying these little things can make a huge difference later on in the night.

While we are obviously still getting used to how to responsibly send sexy photos and comments through our phones to our partners, it is really a wonderful way to get each other a lot more excited for when you finally get together later. Driving someone wild without touching them means that when you finally do run your fingers along their skin it's going to be a sensual earthquake.

Foreplay has become such a common term today that we forget that pretty much a few decades ago it was the new fad that everyone was whispering about. Today it's normal for use to see articles in magazines in the supermarket checkout counter for both men and women that gleefully boast about giving great sex tips, which shows how much we had ingrained the idea that if you 'prime that pump', you'll definitely have a great reaction.

They key, though, is remembering how subtle foreplay can be. It's not just swapping oral sex for a few minutes. As noted above, so aspects of foreplay can technically begin before you're both in bed or on the couch. But when you're there, spend a lot of time simple making out. Add little twists like resisting the urge to rip off each others clothes for the longest possible time. Or both you changing into something sexier mid-make out is a great way to increase arousal, especially if you don't know what either of you are going to change into. And perhaps you'll take it another step further and dress up in a sort of uniform, and suddenly you're doing some sexy role-play in a doctor's office or cubicle. Pretending to be a doctor who is checking up their patient in several naughty ways might be the thing that sets both of you off like you never would have imagined.

Talking about your fantasies beforehand and then going to great lengths together to live them out will definitely increase the chances of having multiple orgasms. The important thing here is to always be supportive of your partner, because they will certainly notice your lack of interest, and that might lead to everyone having a less than good time. This is not to say that you should pretend to enjoy something that you do not. It's important to strike a balance between giving a new situation or position your all, without doing it while feeling uncomfortable (since 'uncomfortable' is the true orgasm killer).

While it is certainly true that thrusting between some 'not too dry' friction is good enough for a man to achieve orgasm (the example was meant to be a hand, by the way), simply thrusting into the vagina is not necessarily enough for most women to experience the same sort of feelings. The clitoris has just as many nerve endings as the tip of the penis, so it only makes sense that this little nub above the vaginal opening should be given just as much attention as the erection (in fact, the clitoris gets similarly engorged when the woman is excited). Oral sex, then, can play a huge role in pleasuring women right over the edge. It is also helpful that certain intercourse positions can make it easier to stimulate the clitoris, either by the woman's own hand or her partners, so that they are getting pleasured by the penis going in, and the clit as well.

Going back to the original point of most women needing clitoral assistance for orgasm, it's important to note that 'most' women does not mean 'all', and that it's possible for some women to get off completely simply through standard intercourse. If so, congratulations are in order for the both of you, as it's going to be much easier to not only reach orgasm, but reach multiple ones!

While it was known throughout all civilizations that both sexes clearly derived pleasure from intercourse, the simple truth that most were patriarchal societies meant that it was mostly men that got all the attention and consideration in society. And that's been more about social structure than knowledge about sex, because even in ancient Greece, plays involving Gods and humans mention that women could certainly enjoy sex to a greater extent than men. In Ovid Metamorphosis, Tresias said as much to Jove and Juno, and the former would know, as 'he' has previously existed as a woman (the greeks certainly didn't shy away from using their imaginations).

'La petite morte' is a popular french term for the orgasm, and it means 'the little death', most likely referring to the near frozen mental state of ecstasy, with eye rolling in the back of lovers heads as they stretch out and arch their backs in paralytic joy.

This doesn't mean that open talk about sex was always acceptable. Famously, in Victorian England it was thought that women would go hysterical if they did not ultimately orgasm, and various devices and medical treatments were designed to help women avoid this occurrence (which was done more to keep women from going hysterical than wanting to genuinely give them sexual pleasure).

It really is only in the last sixty years or so that sexual studies has really looked into the social and physiological aspects of the orgasm. The Kinsey Report may not have been the most academically accurate document, but when it was published in the nineteen forties and fifties, it certainly opened the eyes of the Western world to the sort of sexual activities and fantasies that many people had been avoiding.

If multiple orgasms have sadly eluded you and your partner, maybe the problem is that it's just you and your partner. While adding another person or another couple to your sex lives can be a huge jump, it might just the thing that will take your pleasure to the next level. Certainly it will require a lot of discussion and trust between the two of you (as well as mutual enthusiasm! if one of you isn't that interested, then the idea shouldn't be pursued). Perhaps something a lot more intense like having two people give you oral at the same time, or being penetrated in two openings at once, is the exact sort of experience that will set you off on a seemingly endless wave of pleasure.

On the opposite end of the scale, there is the minimalist approach. If you really want an intense orgasm, how about building up to by having Karezza sex, which is essentially intercourse without the orgasm. And if you say, 'well what's the point?', the point is having these extremely intimate and arousing moments, but holding off from getting off during the entire experience, and saving it for a day or two later (or even longer, if you and your partner really want to test your collective willpower)

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