When you start a relationship, it is supposed to be fun, lighthearted, relaxed and just easy. Rather than analyzing or checking out each other's personality and every move or adding stress to the relationship and having a discussion about what the future will hold, you should be enjoying the initial phase without that added pressure. You should be familiarizing yourself with each other and having a lot of fun, right?

With that being said, once things start to look as if they may be long term, then that is when the relationship might change because you might not be ready for that yet. You may want to enjoy the fun phase rather than talking about a long term relationship. You want to go with the flow until the long term relationship possibly materializes itself. You may not want to force it. However, both of you have to be on the same page and want the same thing. There are a lot more things that you should not do in a relationship; in addition to forcing a long term status. You should not lie when there is no reason to or it will catch up with you. You should not fall into such unhealthy habits or it will be difficult to proceed. Another thing you shouldn't do is to put your relationship out there on social media before you are serious about each other. Not everyone needs to know that you are seeing each other. If you include your social media followers into your relationship, you are inviting their opinions and it might not be as nice as you want it to be. Remember that there are many unhappy people on social media and they would love to see you unhappy too and so their opinion is not going to work in your favor. Don't give other people the satisfaction of making you as unhappy as they are. If you have children, be sure not to introduce them to your prospective partner until you are sure that this is going to be a serious relationship. Your children should not be subjected to a break up, if that ends up being the case. You should also not expect your new partner to read your mind, but instead, you should learn how and when to communicate your feelings. If you want to experience something in the relationship, be sure to say so, but express yourself in a calm and compassionate manner. Don't ignore miscommunication. Once you see a problem, talk about it. Don't let your new partner leave any clothes at your house yet. Solidify the relationship first before moving in or living as a married couple.

After you have spent months or even years swiping, it is now time to find someone that you are compatible with. Once you find that person, you may feel an adrenaline rush of excitement and fun during the initial phase of the relationship. During the first few weeks, you will be able to determine whether the relationship is worth your time, energy and effort and if it is worth moving forward with. Therefore, it is important and significant to pay close attention to things that occur in this initial phase of the relationship. It is similar to the honeymoon stage in a marriage. The glass might seem rosy at first and then as you get to know each other, things start to unravel. And most times, you have to set the stage of how you want the relationship to progress and so there are some things that you should or shouldn't do and things that you should not tolerate and therefore, you should set boundaries right away so you don't make the same mistake that you might have made in past relationships. By setting boundaries, you will know if the other person has respect for them and then you will be able to figure out if it is worth continuing the relationship.

There are so many habits that people can easily develop, even in a new relationship, if you allow them to. And when these habits are formed, they are hard to break. If you get accustomed to doing something and you know that you can get away with it, you will probably continue to do so. In that case, the other person in the relationship might become resentful about your actions, even if they are not that serious to you. This might result in constant fighting and subsequent breakup. Therefore, it is good to develop the right attitudes and habits from the beginning and this includes respect for each other's space, intention and general outlook. This is when the relationship will go south. So, be upfront, honest, respectful and positive from the start and that is how your relationship will progress. The first weeks of the relationship are detrimental to how it will proceed. So, be careful. Watch the habits and nip them in the bud right away.

One mistake that people make in their new relationships is falling in love too fast. You cannot say that you love someone you just met. There is nothing like love at first sight because the minute you find out what the person is all about, you might fall out of love. Loving someone is being connected to them and having a bond or chemistry. There is no way that you can know all of this right away. So, avoid falling for that person so fast until you get to know their views, their habits and how serious they are about the relationship. Your perception of the relationship might be different from theirs and it is helpful to be on the same page. While one partner might see the relationship as a short fling, you might be looking for a long term thing where it does not exist. You don't have to be in any hurry for a committed relationship. It is best to take it nice and slow.

You should never reveal how you truly feel about someone too soon. Never be too passionate about expressing your feelings until you are sure of where this relationship is going. While you can think seriously about it, don't say it. The early phase of most relationships will appear to be promising and even while you may be comfortable being with the person, things can change overnight. And more importantly, the way that you feel might not be the same way that they feel. You should only share with the other person what they are willing to share with you.

When you first get into a relationship with someone and you happen to have children, you should always wait before introducing those children. Your children are a prized entity in all of this and they are innocent to what you are feeling or doing. It would not be fair to introduce them to someone that you are not yet sure about. Children will often fall in love right away, if the new partner treats them well and if things don't go the way that you thought, the children don't have the level of understanding that you do. And so, they will feel attached to the person, even after they are gone. So, tread carefully with this. Don't put your children out there to get hurt. Children don't handle breakups like adults do.

You shouldn't avoid listening to your gut feelings about things you see or experience with your new partner. You might be in love with the good looks, charm and intelligence, but you should also pay attention to the fact that he or she did not pay the share of the bill at the restaurant where you had dinner a few times. You should also pay attention to the weird joke that in other circumstances; you wouldn't think was a joke. If you have a gut instinct that something is not right, you might be right. Don't have that inner conversation that everything is OK and that you are just over-reacting. Nine times out of ten, you are not. If it spells disaster, it may just be. Listen to your gut feelings.

When you get into a new relationship, it is normal to want to be around the person all the time and probably want to stay in touch constantly. But, you should avoid texting and calling too often because you don't want the person to be tired of you. It is better to make the other person long to see you and hear your voice. Don't practice compulsive calling or texting. It can turn off the person, especially if it is someone who is not into texting and talking on the phone. Not everyone is into that sort of thing. So, be mindful of the other person and be respectful of their time and space. Continue to be a mystery to the new partner. That is a huge turn on.

While we know that sex is a given in a new relationship, you should never give up the goods too quickly. When you have sex too early in a relationship, it could hijack your judgment and your emotions. It is possible that the other person is just lusting after you and not interested in anything long term. The minute you have sex with that person, he or she is probably going to move on to their next conquest. Sex can also complicate the relationship. It is best to get to know the person first or have a connection beyond sex and then give up the good stuff.

Nothing turns off a new partner, especially the male in the relationship, but a woman asking for money too soon. Yes, you might have financial issues, but he does not have to know right away. And another turn off is to ask what each of you does to earn an income and then asks what the amount of the income is. You should also never ask if the person owns a vehicle or rents or owns a home. In addition, if you ask about the person's investment portfolio, it is going to be evident that you are all about money and it will seem as if you are a gold digger. Those things are private and it is up to the other person to tell you these things when they are good and ready.

You should never get too clingy in a relationship. You should not let the other person feel smothered and bothered about your intentions. If you get too overly protective or too much into the other person's space, it could backfire on you because eventually the person will withdraw from the relationship and in some cases, you might know this until it hits you right in the face. That is when most people wonder what they might have done to cause this. We all need our own space in a relationship and when it is crowded by someone else, it can get uncomfortable and uneasy. Give your new partner enough space to have private time away from you without feeling guilty.

If you had a past relationship with someone else, you should never bad mouth that person while in the presence of your new partner. In fact, you should try not to bring up your ex and if you do, then it should be in a good light, even if you disagreed with a lot of things done to you. If you try to vent to your new partner about your recent relationship, it could turn them off from you. Avoid fanning the flame. Leave that conversation alone and just try to focus on getting to know your new partner.

When you meet someone for the first time and want to start a new relationship, you should give the person to find out little tidbits about you instead of spilling your guts and telling everything in one or more sessions. It is not a good idea to give details about your family members, possible medical conditions, past relationships and other toxic experiences. Focus on the good things about your life. Stay on a positive path and save those secrets for another time and place.